I agree with the sentiment, but emotional care does take energy. When people are feeling hopeless and powerless, it saps their ability to be compassionate because it takes energy. See Caregiver burnout.
I agree.
“Compassion Fatigue” is a real thing therapists talk about.
Half the therapy horror stories I hear sound like they’re born out of that.
I’ve had to tell friends a few times I cannot reciprocate feelings.
Right? I feel like this person posting this has never had someone just trauma dump on them, it’s exhausting.
Most of the time I can’t be emotionally there has nothing to do with them, it’s just me dealing with my own brain.
Happy lemmy anniversary :)
“Therapy horror story” sounds like a weird horror movie sub-genre!
(But on a serious note, that’s why it’s important to set boundaries/limits while providing care)
A couple of years back (pretty much when I canned Twitter for Mastodon), I decided to actively be more positive in my online interactions. And you know, it’s been great.
For example, if I see a post on a movie community on here along the lines of “What movie do you hate, even though it’s really popular?” I’ll just sail on by. At most I’ll mark it as hidden so I don’t get tempted to wallow in negativity.
10/10 I can heartily recommend just ignoring things that are framed negatively, and people who try to draw you into a row for their own entertainment.
I think a health insurance ceo may have choked on these pills recently. what an ironic way to go.
hell yah, compassion is the goal
I certainly feel this way, but there appears to be a huge movement in the US that admires the uber-wealthy and sees that their callous disregard for others is a key to their perceived success.
It’s scary to me. I see it from executives who think Musk is a role model, I see it from conservatives who see Trump as a role model. It’s hard to argue that lack of compassion is not working right now.
Compassion doesn’t do anything to make the world a better place unless it changes your behaviour. No one benefits from spooky compassion vibes at a distance! It takes real actions to change things.
“We humans do not understand compassion. In each moment of our lives, we betray it. Aye, we know of its worth, yet in knowing we then attach to it a value, we guard the giving of it, believing it must be earned. Compassion is priceless in the truest sense of the word. It must be given freely. In abundance.” -Steven Erikson
B-but its a dog eat dog world out there a-and everyone is my competition so by not having compassion and using others as objects to extract use and climb the social ladder I can make lots of money for a comfortable lifestyle! Don’t you understand? Everything is about me and my lifestyle and my ego! Everything is about money and power dynamics and luxury! Me! Me! Meeeeee! snorts coke
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