

you are not engaging with the argument, just stating ideals
Correct. I’ve engaged in the past with people who are convinced Dansup is committing some kind of horrible sins. I examined the arguments in detail and decided they were bullshit.
I don’t really feel like rehashing the arguments again, but you can read if you want to see them:
https://ponder.cat/post/1151008/1352919
https://ponder.cat/post/2151188
I actually wanted to find some more of the more transparently bullshit ones, but they had been removed by mods because they were transparently bullshit. Like I said, I’ve seen enough criticisms and had them turn out to be bullshit to reach my limit, there was one earlier today that I looked into a decent amount of detail, too.
I’m not sure I would go that far. A lot of “trust and safety” type things are like this, just soft boundaries to try to shape the types of interactions people are going to get themselves into to be a little more on the pleasant side. There’s nothing wrong with Pixelfed trying to show some honor to the same advisory boundary. The real problem comes into it when projects like Mastodon start giving people the impression that “private” posts that are federated out are going to be able to stay private. As long as the user expectation is clear that it’s just an advisory setting that will tweak the algorithms for showing the post in non-assurable ways, it is fine.