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4 months agoI struggle with this too. I think it’s because it feels so damned nonproductive to not try and figure out how to make things better. Matter of fact, it feels like how I approach people dumping personal problems at work…indifference I suppose. And that’s the last thing I want to show someone I care about. So it weighs me down.
I’ve taken to asking questions from different angles during the venting, and this seems to be my best strategy. Results are mixed.
I’ve accepted that I can’t be one of these “there, there” people because I don’t enjoy feeling useless. I care, what’s being said matters to me, but I can’t be myself in the situation. And that feels bad.
Quality was mentioned, but I’ll add my view. Most everything is disposable now, whether you go with the upgraded option or not. Everyday items, cars, houses, tools, services…we’re surrounded by junk.
At Boeing the bean counters took over, look at them now. Most other corporations are doing the same, just with lower stakes.
It’s not just stuff–it’s interaction too. People are so hooked on throwaway videos, social media, etc that our collective attention span has severely diminished since the internet took hold. I was reading a book recently, and one of the characters described using a tactic of keeping another character off balance in conversation to gain an advantage over them. I feel like this is being done to all of us on the grand scale, intentionally or not.
What I’ve learned is that these trends will continue until we do something about it. I try to bring what quality and value I can to those around me, pass on what wisdom I’ve gained, and be a good influence. Even to strangers when possible. It’s up to us to carry and keep the torch lit.