It sounds like your ADHD diagnosis is helping you with some introspection! I think you should discuss this with your wife so the two of you can come up with some strategies that will help you both get back to an activity that you both enjoy together.

You may be irritated at “being told what to do” because of Opposition Defiance Disorder, which is often comorbid with ADHD.

Or maybe you’re hyperfocused on your own morning routine and getting irritated at being interrupted when your wife asks you to do things.

But to me, this sounds like a communication issue more than an ADHD issue.

Is your wife asking you to take care of things related to the hike? “Can you fill up the water bottles? Can you pack the snacks? Where should we go today?” These are all things that could be planned/prepped at a different time, like the night before. Maybe doing so would be less stressful.

Or is your wife assigning you to-do list items unrelated to the hike? “Can you wash the dishes? Can you call X this week to ask about plans for Y?” Again, these assignments could be discussed or completed at a different time or in a different way (i.e. shared list with to-do items she could add for both of you.)

If it’s the latter, why does your wife feel like she needs to assign you tasks in your household? Is there a chore imbalance that could be addressed? (Is your ADHD otherwise affecting your shared household management tasks?) Is your wife more of the “project manager” and she’s the one keeping track of what needs to get done every week? If yes, please for the sake of your relationship, look into the concept of emotional labor. I’d also suggest looking into Fair Play Life. Potentially you and your wife could reorganize how responsibilities are split so that she no longer needs to ask you to do things, and thus you stop getting annoyed at a growing to-do list of assigned tasks.

If it’s a paid service your psychiatrist uses and your doctor trusts the results, then I would too.

Why do you doubt the results if you’re trying to get help? Isn’t that the point of reaching out to a doctor in the first place?

Everything in your bulleted list sounds like ADHD to me. The fact that you wrote out a post of your thoughts which included a bulleted list sounds like ADHD to me.

I’m not a professional of course. I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child, so I’ve lived with this for a long time. The quote in your post could have applied to me as a hyperactive child on some days but does not apply to me now; not just from maturing and aging, but also a lifetime of developing coping skills and self-restraint.

But regardless, everyone is different. I wouldn’t put too much in stock with one quote.

But also, I have no idea what a creyos ADHD assessment is either. If it’s just some free online test I wouldn’t necessarily put too much in stock with its results either…

But yeah, it sounds like ADHD to me

…no the question at the top of this comment thread is “who is it?”

And in which case, the answer is written in the subtitle of the article, a single click away. Literally the text when you load the page is:

"Celebrity Number Six’ Internet Mystery Is Solved

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I like being a data nerd 🤓 Garmin’s help articles are pretty informative, this is the one about HRV if you’re curious for more: https://www.garmin.com/en-US/garmin-technology/health-science/hrv-status/

Okay yeah sounds like maybe Adderall isn’t the right med for you. When I have a period without Adderall and then resume taking it, I’ll have a few days/week where I’m headachey and barely hungry. But if I power through, those side effects will go away.

My psych has said that some people just don’t do well with Adderall and other ADHD meds are better for them. My best friend also has ADHD and she recently started Adzenys, which is a very recent med (no generics yet.) What I’m trying to say is there’s other types of meds out there and maybe something else will work better for you (side effects and maybe less impact on your HRV score.)

Fellow Garmin user with ADHD.

The HRV status feature on your Garmin is meant to track physiological stress. Not necessarily mental stress (although that can affect physiological things.) Unfortunately yes, when I’m on my ADHD meds (currently unable to source my Adderall XR) my HRV status is lower.

But functionally, I’m better when I’m on my ADHD meds. Yes my body has a heightened stress response (i.e. higher HR during the day when I’m on my meds) from the meds, but in my opinion that’s a necessary side effect of the ADHD meds. I’d rather be functional and capable and have a worse HRV than spend hours laying on the floor feeling like I can’t function because of my ADHD.

Your HRV status covers a rolling 4-week average. Given enough time on the meds, it will learn your new HRV trends and stop reporting you as “unbalanced.” It looks worse than it is right now because the initial period of getting on meds is making it look like your system is out of whack. Which honestly it kind of is, as it’s adjusting. Once you figure out the med combo for you, not only will your HRV settle down from getting used to the meds, but the score on your Garmin will also settle down as you spend more time in your “new normal” range.

Basically what I’m saying is: HRV on your Garmin is more intended to track the impact of training and exercise on your body, and not necessarily intended to track how medication changes affect the score. Personally I would take the Garmin readings with that grain of salt: the changes to your score are due to meds rather than exercise, so it’s sort of outside the intended use of the feature. Keep up with the meds and keep up with your normal training, but your Daily Suggested Workouts will probably be a bit easier while it recovers from thinking your status is Unbalanced.

Thank you for sharing this! I didn’t know this was an option - I was planning to bring it up with my psych at our next appointment. I’ll look into reporting my experience.

WOAAAHHH.

After being unable to source my Adderall for months I finally got it refilled. The same dose I’ve been taking for 20+ years. For some reason my body could not handle it, I was getting headaches and my pulse was racing and I was anxious. Which didn’t make sense because I’ve previously had years without taking it and did not see these issues ever before (but I’m older now? Idk)

Anyway I asked for a dose change and we decreased by 5mg. Been better since.

Just looked at my bottle and the stuff I couldn’t handle is made by Granules. 😮

Yeah, don’t tell us what to do!

I have only heard good things about Vyvanse. But I don’t know as many people who have tried it because it’s been expensive for many people. I’m hoping these approved generics get to market fast! I’ve been struggling without my Adderall XR - the shortage finally caught up to me.