Maybe not in the “smart mind challenging” category but there are plenty of craft kits for your budget: paint canvases by numbers, make your own accessories with clay, bead jewelry, basic engineering kits (build your own robot types), dig your own fossil kits, build-this-or-that-with-LEDlights, gardening kits for kids, etc.

My point is to expand your horizon a bit, it’s perfectly fine that you want to cater to her intelligence and not just go for something girly in a cliche sense. But she can also enjoy crafting stuff.

It’s just extremely difficult for me to hold a value in my head and perform an operation against another. I do understand the operations though, the concept is fine, the problem is that of numerical values. Numbers. I’m horrible with them. Always had problems remembering important historical dates, my own personal numbers (ids, age, etc). Because it’s such a struggle it becomes very tiring very quickly, and frustrating. That’s what’s hard.

I wouldn’t go back. You’ve been there for too long already. Nothing says you need to stick with the new place either. I would be looking for another job if possible, you have a solid decade of holding your previous job if you feel queasy about having a <1yr position in your resume. It’s understandable to not like a new position/company change, your previous role gives testament to your potential as a long term employee.

Reading other comments, I see this amount would equal to 17 years of payments. There is no right answer. If it were me, I’d go for the lump, but I’m well aware that I am good at managing my own money in the sense that I don’t overspend, no matter what the bank account says. I’m naturally frugal.

I think the main considerations you need to take are: your personality, which you suggest you can’t trust yourself with that much money; on the other hand, the payee’s personality and the unexpected, ie., are they reliable enough to pay monthly or will they owe you? What if they die in a couple years? What if they go bankrupt? Etc. (not sure if there are system failsafes for these scenarios where you live).

I would suggest get the lump, deposit 80% of if or so in a fixed account with a high rate that won’t let you withdraw in a couple years, use the remaining 20% to keep yourself alive until you find a job. Once you get a bit more used to managing your own money you can decide what to do with the rest.

They jumped out of the way

I’ve read the definition and I guess it’s not always as overtly negative, but that’s easy to fix with one or two extra words, ie. “self-centered dilettante”

Exactly yes thanks. Gatekeeping is one of those words I tend to forget it exists

Yes, yes Cambridge, that’s right

Yesss yes yes yes I think you’ve nailed it thank you! I didn’t know this word, I’ve read the definition and it suits quite well.

It’s alright, they may be neurodivergent as I am as well, and everyone has a story and a reason to be and do etc. I’m aware this isn’t all there is to this person, I’m not trying to find two words to sum up their existence, just the part of their existence that rubs me off the wrong way.

I think pretentious is the closest match but it’s still lacking something else. Another commenter suggested two words instead of one, I guess that might be the way to go

Probably, I think one word only is too specific. So far I think pretentious fits the bill the best, but it isn’t enough to fully describe the type.

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I guess poser is the closest but it’s like an intellectual type of poser. I was hoping for something a bit harsher than just poser though.

I used to live in a house hopelessly infested. My family is clean. We nuked, to no avail. Even if you don’t leave food behind, the fuckers will find things to eat. Examples of things the roaches ate in that house:

• my favorite boot soles (leather)
• cold porcelain souvenirs
• wax used to lubricate drawers
• rotting wood from the actual wall panels
• debris stuck in brushes (hair and tooth brushes)
• paper

You can’t win. They probably have plenty of food in the form of decomposing organic matter inside the walls. For example dead animals, mold, rotting wood or else. I’ve had some success sealing with OCD levels of precision every single possible gap in the floor, wardrobes, walls, you name it. But there is always this or that thing you can’t seal such as power point sockets or else.

Baldurs Gate

Cause no time

Cabbage does store better than most greens, but no, not as long as a preserve would.

Nice, thank you!

That’s a cool read, thanks for sharing

Yes, that’s an option but it’s not a long life preservation method which is what I’m asking about. It’s just hunting/ gathering fresh food like anywhere else.