Oh yeah, age will catch up on you quick! And I’m in a very sunny/outdoor activity area so I really have to be vigilant about taking care of my skin. The Korean skincare sounds interesting but I have no idea where to start

I’m going to get reamed on here for too many products and spending way too much money but I’m an aging female in a very superficial location, so please forgive me! And marketing clearly works on me…

Morning: Cetaphil cleanser, with just hands. I wouldn’t scrub your face with a wash cloth, sounds too harsh. Skinceuticals Phloretin (it’s a high end vitamin C serum)- this one has really evened out my skin tone and apparently protects from further sun damage. Before upcoming lotions I mist with water or Caudalie grape water spray-helps lock in moisture with the lotions Alastin Restorative Skin Complex serum-my dermatologist recommended this one, he also sells it…no idea how much it has individually helped or not Kiehls avocado eye cream Dieux instant angel gel cream Little bit of La Roche Posay cicaplast under eyes Supergoop mineral matte spf 40 sunscreen

Evening: Double cleanse-start with Neutrogena sesame seed oil on dry face-I’ve only been doing this about a month and it’s my favorite (and cheapest) thing now-removes makeup and oil or dirt from the day really well and it’s really hydrating. Then lightly wash with cetaphil cleanser. Alastin Restorative Skin Complex Dr Dennis Grossman retinol eye cream Skinceuticals a.g.e Interruptor lotion Aklief- this is a prescription tretinoin derivative and I don’t use it every day Skinceuticals Triple Lipid Repair La Roche Posay cicaplast lightly under eye

On my chest I use Timeless vitamin c (a good dupe for the Skinceuticals Phloretin) in the morning and then the Dieux InstantAngel cream. Also been using some leftover skinceuticals HA Immerse there that didn’t work well on my face.

Body I do a messy mixture of Gold Bond Retinol body lotion mixed with a vitamin E oil and water nightly

I’m still sort of figuring it out and would love to eliminate stuff but I’m not sure what. It’s ever-evolving. Admittedly I spend WAY too much money on this, but fuck it, I can and it makes me feel good. Also this stuff (at least some of it) has totally transformed my skin for the better. So maybe some of it is a waste but some of it definitely works

Ah the cooked fart. My husband and I bonded over this very shower thought early in our courtship

Do you all still feel like that? That breaks my heart honestly, there has to be a shift. I thought that stigma was starting to come down with the younger generation in recent years but maybe I’m off

So I would never cry in public (I almost never cry really) and I think I have just as hard of a time asking for help carrying anything as a guy would, I’m not even sure I’d have an easier time accepting the help when offered. Even when I had a broken foot I remember a guy from across the street waving me down and offering to help me carry whateve bags I had with me and I was like “thanks I’m fine!”, but I totally could have used the help. So maybe it’s just my perception that nothing is different for me…? I mean I see the obvious differences in the way guys behave towards us vs other males (and honestly I like the chivalry when it happens) but I guess, as I think about it, I don’t attach different rules to myself.

The meat cleaver thing cracks me up though!

I’m here and happy to answer but I honestly can’t think of anything! Do you have any examples of types of things you’re looking for?

Yeah this has been an interesting thing I’ve noticed too as I age, I feel very regulated emotionally and even-keeled. I find it quite refreshing

Was this one on the news? This is very very familiar

Oh I had not considered the gods! Curses…

The land of opportunity

Well now I just looked up the documentary and put it on! Whatever this faction is I don’t think it’s representative of the whole. The ones near me I think have always embodied peacefulness. The temple has its doors open regularly, I’ve never really walked in and looked around but it would be interesting. It’s also in an area that’s really blown up in value since they bought it, worth many millions today. I’m sure they’ve been offered buyouts by developers but clearly didn’t accept any if so. Just goes to show it’s not about the money for them!

There’s a temple of theirs very near me. I don’t see many around now but back in the 90s it’s was a big thing. But they were always very peaceful here, not remotely sinister. They just played that tambourine and chanted away and did their own thing

That’s the spirit

I’m making a big conscious effort to hear out and be in tune with perspectives of people of all age groups and to not deny anyone’s experiences just because they’re not my own. There are such generational divisions that, being between the older and younger generations right now, I can see so clearly. That makes me want to go out of my way to avoid it as I get older.

My god you are living the dream! Well my dream anyway

The responses to this post have me more than a little rattled

I think a big part of living with gratitude, at least for me, means not living with any regrets. I mean sure there are things I’d like to do and places I’d like to go but I really wouldn’t regret anything. I think I mostly have my priorities in order as it is, I’d just be really fucking sad to have to leave this world…but so happy for everything I’ve had in it

I’m very grateful to be here and I’m terrified of leaving

Just the one?

I’m so sorry, that sounds awful to see :/ Try to remember him as the whole of his life, the last bit was only a blip of what I’m guessing was an otherwise long and happy life