Do a little dance, he said. Get down tonight, he said. What he didn’t say, was that an electron has both mass and spin and yet has no definite location.

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Cake day: December 16th, 2024
  • Omnipitaph@reddthat.comtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•How can someone who was groomed as a child unlearn the lies and grow in their thirties?English
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    4 days ago

    I don’t know what your experience was like, I want to make it clear that how I handled my stuff def wouldn’t work for everyone.

    For me, I found that it was hard to find a healthy relationship because I was attracted to and attracted abusers. It took me going open poly and having a lot of casual, relaxed, and actually intimate encounters with people to over-ride my insecurity and lack of self-worth. I was in an open poly relationship with two wonderful people for about 4 years, and had casual fleeting relationships with people throughout.

    I learned how to set boundaries. I learned the language I needed to express those boundaries. I learned how to communicate my needs, and how to process experiences in a healthy way. I learned that there are no perfect people; that everyone has damage.

    I also started doing “the work” by Dr. Robert Gibson. Its a series of 48 tapes that guide you through a process of introspection, so that you can face the hard stuff and move forward. It can be scary to look inward, and a lot of people avoid doing so and throw themselves into distractions. I did that for years, and I still struggle with it sometimes. If you look for the tapes, I warn you that they are framed in a pseudo-spiritual fashion, if that happens to be triggering.

    At some point, I got to a place where I could identify what I wanted in a relationship. What I needed, even. I went out and found it, and am now engaged another four years later.

    I genuinely hope you find a way through that works for you. Big hugs <3

  • Omnipitaph@reddthat.comtoTechnology@lemmy.world•ruh rohEnglish
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    7 days ago

    If you’re on desktop, download FreeTube. No more ads, ever. No more jittery youtube videos even though you have 300mbs down, you can download any video in app at max speeds, and its not algorithm fed. I imported my subscriptions, and now if I want to see something new I can use the not broken search function. Its like early early youtube and its wonderful!