You don’t have to attack anyone to aggressively shoot them down. It’s in the tone and brevity you use to communicate it, that you are completely right (even tho you supposedly want advice) and they are thus completely wrong, and their thoughts aren’t worth more than a dismissive sentence or two that boils down to how you are a special snowflake for whom all the things that work for other people simply can’t work, because reasons.

If it was insulting, you might want to think about why. Because all I did was describe how you are behaving on here.

Get therapy. Or keep doing this little dance every few weeks with the exact same results every time, even though it’ll never actually help, whatever. You do you.

Lawl, you won’t take anything from anyone who tried to help you more nicely, either, and I wasn’t being mean or attacking you, regardless what you might think, just being honest without sugar-coating it, cuz that clearly doesn’t get through to you. I read alllllllll your replies. I’m not assuming anything about you, I’m basing this entirely on how you present yourself on here, and I said as much in my comment.

You come on here whining up a storm and aggressively shooting down everyone who tries to help you, what do you honestly expect? To be the permanent center of the entire internet while everyone fawns over you, (oh you poor poor victim of the unfair world, you!) and offers you ways to do absolutely nothing and get what you want (which don’t exist, btw, which is why nobody has offered you any)?

Get therapy, dude. Seriously. You desperately need it.

The absolute irony being that eating things is a major case -for- species conservation, like turkeys, which had a population rebound thanks largely to hunting license funds.

:)

If you don’t care about bonding with people, to the point that you already, without even meeting her, don’t give a shit about the person living in the body you are horny for, just hire a sex worker. It’s much easier because you don’t have to put in any effort at all to be a better version of yourself (something you are clearly desperately opposed to doing), and saves any woman having to deal with that bullshit in a relationship where she thinks you might be reclusive but otherwise reachable with a bit of patience, when in reality you are just a self-absorbed whiner actively choosing to be as miserable as possible.

No woman is ever going to want to be in a relationship with the person you are representing yourself as on here. Seriously, you sound like all the worst self-inflicted traits of people I’ve dated all rolled into one oh-poor-me parade. What a powerful turnoff. Seek professional help to fix yourself first, or you’ll just keep feeling let down and angry about something you are doing entirely to yourself, and you’ll keep blaming everyone but yourself. So it’ll just. Keep. Happening.

There’s nothing wrong with you that you can’t fix. But you have to want to. And before you say you can’t fix your looks or whatever other nonsense bullshit excuse you’ve come up with to not have to blame your own shitty self-absorbed personality that you actively choose to maintain, not everyone is as shallow as you are and only cares about the way their partner looks or sounds or whatever. The vast majority of humans are far deeper than you seem willing to give us credit for.

Whenever I get any of those contacts, I ask for about 150k more than the absolute max I could get for it (150k… is about half of the total sellable price). Sight unseen, as-is.

I’d take that deal, but they usually don’t reply :(. Did have one guy ask if there was a pool in the basement to justify the price. Told him he’d have to buy it to find out.

In reality it needs a lot of expensive work I’d rather not pay to do (re-wiring, ripping out the cracked lathe and plaster walls and drywalling, kitchen remodel, etc) and they would be piiiiiiised when they took possession ;)

I left this open for a while and forgot what post I was reading when I returned, so I misread your first sentence as “politicians” rather than pelicans…

And lemme tell you, that was a quality chuckle.

If you set up a pihole, most of those in-game banner and popup ads won’t show up on iOS with the default blocklists. You won’t even be able to play ads for rewards anymore without disabling or swapping to a different network. Anything from the prime mobile store will still have ads unless you block the full Amazon domain, but those are the only ones I’ve encountered that are that persistent, and those are easy enough to avoid. Just don’t download anything from Amazon.

As a bonus, the pihole will also block ads across the rest of your network, and you can choose to be really aggressive with what gets blocked if you want, so you don’t need the piecemeal per-device solutions.

If you do opt to set a pihole up, make sure to port forward 53 to the pihole, so android users get the same Adblock perk (android will default to google dns via 53 to serve up ads without that port forward)

If you then set up a home VPN through your router, you can connect back to it when you are out and about and get the same level of ad protection wherever you go.

Nope, this is the info I was looking for, thanks :)

I’m struggling heavily to find that OS to learn more about it (literally just got a google tcl tv delivered today, as my old one died last week), can you provide a link of some variety?

I was very heartened to find out that it’s just big android, so there’s likely a lot that can be done with it (but I got it to be dumb).

The only problem I found with this is that Roku knows it’s being blocked so it’ll kill some apps over time (like the Plex app) in a way that forces you to fully reinstall the app. Which means unblocking their domain and allowing them to phone home (or disabling/bypassing pihole), because the app downloads go through that domain as well.

Before I just factory reset them and denied them any internet at all, Plex would break and need to be reinstalled about every 2 months like clockwork, and it wasn’t due to app updates or anything. I know this because I did a test once; reset on one tv, and 2 weeks later on another one. The first called for an update at roughly the 2 month mark, and the other exactly two weeks later. Meanwhile an absolutely ancient Samsung tv still has a copy of the Plex app that hasn’t been updated in like 5 years (it’s a fully obsolete tv)… works fine.

My speculation is that it records the data for that period, and then breaks things you use so it can phone home when you are forced to connect it to fix it.

In Wisconsin it’s like 90/10. I’d guess probably similar.

Someone invites me to look at/pet cows, I wouldn’t even think about negative ulterior motives, cuz there’s several dozen dairy farms within a half hour drive. Tho I would assume they were angling for free help.

Now baby goats, as a draw, are 50/50. Way more likely to work, and way less common.

Edit: words cuz I’m dumb

Instead of setting them aside, I put them in a plastic baggie, write on it what they are for, and tape/magnet it to a wall or toolbox, somewhere prominent.

Works a charm for me.

My trick to not having fur on me is wearing permanent press and other sleek fabrics (spandex blends, silk type feel, or otherwise just smooth). They tend to be less… sticky? Less clingy for hair anyway. And if not those, then very fuzzy fabrics that absorb the hair until it gets washed (comes out in the dryer) or blends in and becomes part of the fabric.

My couch is covered with a microfiber blanket with the less fuzzy side up (one side is that pilling type of soft fuzz, that side is down, the other side doesn’t pilll and has space between the fibers) and the cat hair sort of sinks into it and comes out in the dryer. I use one of those for my bed as well. It’s not perfect, but it works super well for me. I wash those blankets all at the same time so I don’t have the spreading problem I guess, it also doesn’t really come out until it gets into the dryer.

Food related patterns would be pretty strong indicators for me as well, I think.

I only eat after 4pm (sometimes only from 6-10 or so) and people comment when I actually eat earlier than that, especially breakfast. I almost never use condiments or salt (I’m on a very low sodium diet and have been most of my life; I don’t use salt outside of baking, and that’s half salt). Give my dopple unsalted fries and you’ll know right away.

Drinks would work well for me as well - coffee made a very specific way, or room temp water, mostly (I actively dislike cold and hot water).

Men do sometimes have boobs, and women tend not to find them attractive (some do ofc) because they are a sign of a poorly maintained body.

If they were a normal feature both sexes had regardless of health, like women sort of do (tho it is still absolutely based on health and hormone levels so this is kinda disingenuous) it would probably be like nice legs or nice butts; one can appreciate nice ones but it wouldn’t be a secondary sex characteristic anymore, so neither sex would be likely to have the present level of obsession with them.

I don’t think women would be particularly concerned with breasts if men had them, too… for one thing even lesbian women don’t tend to get super giddy about breasts now because they are exposed to them a lot more readily and less sexually than men are, so they just aren’t special in any way, even if they are a lesbian’s preferred physical characteristic. This would become true for men as well re:female breasts, but more than that, I can’t really think of any male physical trait that similar numbers of women like the way men like breasts. And I doubt breasts would end up being it for women.

It’s kinda amusing if you think about it but men are absolutely obsessed with genitalia and sex in a way women just aren’t, usually, and that translates to being absolutely obsessed with one’s own penis, such that it -is- a big chunk of the male personality (for the record I’m not saying this disparagingly, I find the differences to be fascinating as a fellow ace, and just listened to a book about erectile dysfunction where this exact tendency is mentioned many time for its usefulness as a diagnostic tool to determine if ED is caused by physical or hormonal issues). And along with that obsession with their own genitalia being the obvious appendage of all their musings, comes a twin obsession with a single highly obvious female body trait, breasts.

Women just don’t operate like that at all. Maybe it’s socializing, maybe it’s inherent, but either way, I don’t think breasts on men for women (or any other trait, frankly) would or even could be like breasts on women for men. I think the problem is that male secondary sex characteristics are basically optional. Men basically get body hair, bad smells, a lump on the throat, and the ability to put on muscle more easily. Other than the Adam’s apple, which isn’t particularly prominent, none of those things are necessarily permanent. You can shave and shower and if you don’t use your muscles they fade, so men don’t have “one major trait”, like breasts, and women are thus more varied about the trait they find most attractive.

For the other questions - women shirtless normal? I mean that’s just a socializing thing. There have been cultures where women are topless just as readily as men and it’s nbd. This is entirely puritanical nonsense.

For breast cancer color - did you know pink used to be a boys color and blue girls? I see no reason the color couldn’t stay pink. But if it was a big deal for both sexes I don’t think it would ever have risen to the sort of prominance it has in society now. Breast cancer as a big deal is because of women making it a big deal because it disproportionately impacts women and men don’t tend to advocate for women’s issues. But if both sexes were impacted it would be more like lung cancer or something, just sort of non-gendered PSAs about your boobs trying to kill you.

Here’s a fun thought experiment in similar spirits.

If complex intelligent life evolved an an encrusted ocean moon (like Europa, which has liquid ocean topped by miles of ice crust, preventing any light or anything from penetrating to the depths), what would their technology look like, and what would their view of the universe be like?

Honestly I think if this pans out, it will go well beyond just care related to reproductive issues.

I mean there’s got to be some sort of reason that medications and interventions (and illnesses too) sometimes have such dramatically different effects on male and female bodies, and if there are actual biological changes that occur like clockwork for women, that could go a very long way to explaining why and counteracting that issue.

Aww man I’ve never been to a two-floor+ Menards :( none of the ones around me are (they do have the lumber loft but that hardly counts).

Now I feel like I’m missing out.

No you weren’t being unreasonable. They absolutely weren’t trying to help you out of the kindness of their heart, they were trying to seamlessly get your info by just keeping the conversation moving, and not asking if you -want- to sign up, to which yes or no are the only answers. When they ask for your number it’s weird to answer as though they asked a yes or no question, and that’s intentional.

I’ve worked retail, I was trained on canvassing sales (just trained, I quit before I started because it was super shady tactics I wasn’t comfortable with), that tactic is 100% intentional to get the info without you thinking about it. Some places even give bonuses if the employees sign up a certain number of people. Nothing altruistic about any of it.

When you don’t follow their script they get confused… because it’s a script. Not because they think you are mad; they don’t care about you as long as you don’t yell at them. You are just nameless face #545 of the day.

Whenever someone asks for my number or email I smile and tell them “oh, I don’t have an account with you, and I really don’t want one, but thank you all the same.” It’s direct and maybe a bit rude to some people, but they typically apply whatever discount anyway, and if they don’t, meh.

If they ask for zip code or address, I tell them they don’t need it, and with those I will get rude if I get pushback. This includes when I call for product support or something and just have a question. “No, you don’t need to know anything about me to answer my questions, and I won’t be providing it unless I feel you need it, regardless what you think or what your system says.”

There was some legit talk among the wealthy a while back about how to control their slaves servants… and the idea of bomb collars was floated…

I can’t find the article at the moment (I’ll edit when I do because I’m still looking but my app tends to crash if I wait), but this is all totally on the up and up and it’s really fucking depressing that there are so many articles now about doomsday bunkers for the ultra wealthy… like they could have just pumped that money into fixing things but they don’t want to… sociopaths.

Edit- found it faster than I thought!

https://archive.ph/l3Djh

I don’t have a minds eye for something to fade from, so that question doesn’t really make sense to me. I have my eyes and then when I close my eyes it’s either black or eyelid colored, nothing else, and I’m super unclear what seeing things in your mind is supposed to be like. Tho I do have super-vivid visual dreams these days (which did not happen until my late 20s, but aren’t at all uncommon for people with aphantasia) and because I only have open-eye sight and these dreams that seem totally real, I frequently have to ask people if things actually happened. It’s very disconcerting, but my understanding is that dreams are not really the same as waking minds eye anyway.

Rather than a visual representation, I’ll have a verbal description ready as soon as I see an item. So for the ball example, I’d know the ball is “small, about the size of a plum, solid pink somewhere between neon and intense salmon, smooth matte texture, looks like it might be foam”. It probably serves the same function as a visual representation, although perhaps with a bit more required specificity. I don’t really describe things to myself unless I need to, though, so I guess my thinking is sort of abstract. I know the traits something has, and can recall them, but typically don’t explicitly list them unless I’m describing for someone else.

One perk of this is I’m great at describing things I’ve seen or made up, a downside is I’m terrible when people describe things to me. Since I’ve never seen the thing being described, it is a super arbitrary list of usually non-specific features and I don’t care at all. I skip clothing descriptions in books, for example. Don’t care. But when I describe things, even made up things, I’ll run through a list of the features it needs as a minimum to be the object for my mind, which is usually vivid detail for others, as the ball example above.

Idk if I see things differently eyes-open, I don’t really think so, but that’s always been a curiosity of mine since there’s literally no way to know what other people see. I have mild impairments as a result of not being able to visualize, like I’m largely face blind - I have to pick out specific features and traits and use the combination as identifiers. I get a ton of false positives, and almost everyone “feels familiar”. Beyond that, I’m pretty sensitive to colors and patterns. Idk.

But the -way- you ask that first question makes me curious; If you close your eyes and intentionally picture something other than the ball, would you then be unable to tell me what color it was in your example? Do you, personally, require the visual representation to “know” the object?