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Cake day: June 8th, 2023

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  • Well, if there’s one thing that should drive you, it should be getting some form of education or vocational training and forging your own path forward, ideally someplace chill. There’s many places on the west coast where being effeminate is totally normal, and people are totally fine with that. I like it when people get to really be themselves, and I LOVE men who wear cute things. We need more cute apparel!

    I also think therapy would genuinely help you. If you put in your location, hit “all filters” and you can choose what type of therapy you want, and there’s also a separate section for Bisexual/Lesbian/LGBTQ+ (even if you are straight, filtering by these might get you a really thoughtful counselor.)

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/oh/columbus

    Just to make this post too long, I was in a similar boat coming out years ago. Not quite the same, I think girly stuff is cute, but I also don’t go out of my way to wear it. Anyways, I was really stuck in a rut over sexuality, conflicts with religion, and my confusion with cute women, but also cute men. My life really turned around when I started talking to close friends about what I was going through.

    I went deep, no holds barred, we talked hard about everything and life. At the same time, I called my doctor’s office and got a referral for a therapist, who was excellent. That man really helped turn my life around, and recommended the site I linked above. Honestly, his help was all I needed. I’ve met someone I truly love, and everything all worked out in the end.

    The hardest part for me was calling that clinic and telling them that I needed help, and why I needed help. It was hard, but life slowly got easier after that.





  • The razers are really bad this year and I recommend avoiding them completely. Here’s an exhaustive list that just came out six days ago: https://youtu.be/KhfqhCxqpQ8

    Generally, I recommend a desktop if he isn’t moving it around that much. They’re upgradable usually, which saves money over rebuying a laptop with new screens, keyboards, power supplies, etc each time.

    But if he is moving it around, the Asus TUF laptops, particularly last years models, are pretty decent on the whole. Budget, but solid gaming laptops. Decent specs when I bought mine a few years ago.


  • “Flushable” wipes tend to not break down if they are made from plastic, which many are. Treatment facilities vary, and methods of disposal too. But I could see this happening at two steps:

    One, people flush wipes, and during a rainstorm, the combined rainwater and sewage in combined systems overflows faster that the facility can treat the blackwater, dumping raw sewage and wipes into local rivers, lakes and oceans.

    Or two, some treatment facilities have bioprocessors, but have no rag catcher, which would intercept items that were not poop or PFAS-engineered products like toilet paper, which are chemically treated to break down in water.

    If there’s no rag catcher, it’s not gonna get intercepted by the treatment plant, and just get dumped whole into the waterways. Akin to swallowing a piece of gum, then pooping it out later, lol.

    Anyways, wipes (and even toilet paper) are horrible for the environment and tend to cost you extra money in terms of sewer infrastructure. Getting a bidet lowers your own expenses, and reduces the load on the sewer system.



  • Nature. Look around you. Like, seriously, stop what you are doing, and look around you for three, full minutes. You’ll start to notice new things. Bugs, plants, views, animals. There’s a lot going on, even if you just look at a 1x1 in square of grass up close. It’s pretty cool.

    Even in human areas, just spending an hour in a space while not being on your phone is kinda cool. I’d be doing something like weeding a local bike path and start to notice way more people than I ever thought used it. It’s mostly asphalt, but even here, the plants are interesting, and you start to meet people in your community that do the same work.



  • The budget provides insufficient (or no) funding for future NASA flagship missions: LISA, the space-based successor to LIGO, the Nancy Roman Telescope, an already-constructed super-Hubble that’s awaiting launch, and the Habitable Worlds Observatory, the first-ever telescope that will be capable of directly imaging Earth-sized worlds at Earth-like distances around Sun-like stars, and our best hope for finding our first inhabited planet beyond Earth.

    That part about super hubble kills me. This is terrible. Is there any way to redirect all my federal tax income directly into NASA? :P




  • Some of the largest nationwide protests we’ve ever had have been during Trump II. But the distances are incredibly vast.

    The continental US is just over 4,500km wide, excluding Alaska and Hawaii, which are massive as well. While DC is populated, our country is large enough that it would take a six or seven hour flight to get there if you aren’t in a hub city.

    If you are, it’s still over 5 hours of flying from L.A. to DC.

    Driving from San Francisco, CA, to WA DC takes 41 hours, when at highway speeds. And that’s without fuel, rest, or food. People are super spread out in a way Europe is not.

    The real pain is people not voting. Voting could have saved everyone loads of trouble.