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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Don’t live your daily grind according to the highlight reel you see about other people.

    We often don’t see the full lives of even our closest family members - thoughts, hopes, desires, dreams, frustrations, disappointments - and our window into our friends’ and acquaintances’ and strangers’ lives is even smaller. It’s like we only see the few triumphs they post on FB/insta and that’s all we know of them.

    You can’t compare yourself to that. You know your full day of struggles, the long grind between wins, and you only see the big wins of your friends. You know your own dark thoughts and barely-held heated retorts but you never know either of those from anyone around you.

    You will always feel inadequate if you’re comparing your everyday to the best days of your contacts. It’s okay to stop that; and, if you can, we often discover we don’t suck so much.











  • Divorced parents. A latter childhood of “equal time” over the holidays. Hoopla so forced and weird, it was a caricature of itself.

    No, I really avoid a lot of the hoopla in Christmas and everything else. And I like quiet celebrations at home. My best Christmas was my first year H1B-ing in Jersey and my gf came to visit all the way from home. No money, with her tuition and schooling so high, we sat around and watched TV and journeyed over the PATH to see the sights. It was magical (because she is).