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Cake day: June 11th, 2023

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  • I think it’s the inherent tension between a game that promises an immersive, open, and explorable world with a powerful character creator, and AAA studio’s overwhelming compulsion to create a cinematic main quest line.

    The two goals are directly at odds. And it leads to a situation where no matter what kind of character you create, you are still the same predefined character. Because the developers need a common touchpoint to write a story around.

    It’s an issue with a lot of games. In Skyrim, no matter what character you make, you are still the Dragonborn, you can roll a Khajiit and still be able to waltz into every city, even as the other Khajiit are restricted to outside the walls. Similarly in Mass Effect, you will always be Shepard. My excitement for Cyberpunk evaporated when I saw that it was leaning into a cinematic experience rather than a cyberpunk one.




  • If it’s conspiracy theories in general, and not just the soy thing, then I think you might be taking the wrong approach. Just trying to debunk the soy thing might prove impossible because there is some underlying cause that is making him want to believe it.

    Your friend might be being radicalised. By a person he trusts, a community he is a part of, or simply by the algorithm of a website he is spending his time on. In which case, getting him to let go of the conspiracies is going to be extremely difficult, because to do so would lose him those connections.

    It doesn’t sound like he’s too far gone though. Maybe reasserting healthy connections will help, and if you can try breaking his media habits.






  • It might also just be that the person asking you just always asks. Because as you mentioned, only asking when someone “looks” trans or non-binary can be rather invalidating. So to avoid that, they just don’t assume.

    For your last paragraph, I’m personally of the opinion that, short of de-gendering the language entirely, a good solution would basically just be a gender/pronoun badge, but stylised to be more easily readable from a distance. Like a bracelet or a necklace or something of that nature. That would eliminate the need to ask in the vast majority of cases, because the person would be wearing something that unambiguously signals the answer. And it would be completely detached from the presentation of their body, which might not match their gender, or their clothing, which probably shouldn’t be gendered anyway. Changing pronouns, for whatever reason like coming out or just being fluid, would just be a matter of swapping out the single symbol.

    It’s not really feasible, of course, but even as a queer person I find asking and being asked quite clunky. But whenever I go into LGBT+ or geek spaces, I find that wearing a badge just sidesteps the whole issue.





  • You keep saying that it’s bad, but you haven’t actually said why. Just this nebulous idea that standing together is somehow bad. Worker’s rights benefit all workers. And the more people demanding them, the better. Even more so if the people demanding them have greater access to the resources needed to actually make a difference.

    Never once has “divided we conquer” been true.