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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • GrapheneOS puts Play Services in a sandbox so it’s no longer rooted. You can restrict what parts of your filesystem each app has access to very strictly.

    For now people still send me emails on Gmail, so I still have Gmail installed, but very limited permissions.

    It’s a huge improvement.

    You can also start sessions that entirely shut down Play Services so you’re living entirely with FOSS products.

    I’m not quite there yet because I still use maps and drive and photos. Gonna figure out replacements, unfortunately nobody else has the traffic and live rerouting that Google maps does, even if you are willing to pay.

    If you’ve got a pixel, highly recommend. If you have a different relatively recent phone check out lineage or e/os.



  • Well those sound like people who aren’t good to open up to.

    I do sympathize though, I pretended to be a guy for several decades, and my wife put exactly the same kind of duality on me that men put on women.

    I was expected to be sympathetic and nurturing in some contexts and aggressive, jealous, and demanding in others, and I was just supposed to know when to switch.

    And there was an amount of vulnerability I was able to display, but beyond that I’d get told to suck it up.

    I think somebody needs to come up with an ad campaign that’s Therapy For Men. Big sweaty hairy guys with thick beards looking after each other’s mental health like BROs. It worked to get men to use soap.

    (Seriously, I think counseling is too female-coded for a lot of men to be comfortable with it unless they’re fucking the person, or they start to want to fuck the person because they’re unused to talking about things).









  • For me it depended entirely on how happy I was in the rest of my job.

    If I’m, say, being death-marched, or requirements are written in sand, or senior management refuses to ever make a decision in writing, or my manager looks over my shoulder when I’m typing, or you just told me we’re going 100% AI for QA, I don’t want your fucking playdate.

    If the team is happy, offsites can be a fun way to get some bonding in.

    If the team is unhappy, they are there for their check and that is it, they are not paid to pretend to like you at an off-site. Take the money you would use for the party and hand it out as cash in an envelope to everybody individually.






  • I’m wondering whether this is a privileged/feels like deserves privilege white guy thing.

    Down here with the queerdos and minorities, I’m seeing people engage more fully with each other, be more willing to take on friends and lovers, in the last few months.

    Some are getting caught by chat bots, yes, but a lot of people are out there trying to grab human connection while we still can.

    I certainly feel like the “I’m the übermensch and revel in cruelty, empathy is a weakness” mentality that the straight basic wypipo have adopted will not only discourage other people from wanting to be their friend, but also discourages themselves from seeking friendship, because they see it as a weakness.