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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • For me it depended entirely on how happy I was in the rest of my job.

    If I’m, say, being death-marched, or requirements are written in sand, or senior management refuses to ever make a decision in writing, or my manager looks over my shoulder when I’m typing, or you just told me we’re going 100% AI for QA, I don’t want your fucking playdate.

    If the team is happy, offsites can be a fun way to get some bonding in.

    If the team is unhappy, they are there for their check and that is it, they are not paid to pretend to like you at an off-site. Take the money you would use for the party and hand it out as cash in an envelope to everybody individually.






  • I’m wondering whether this is a privileged/feels like deserves privilege white guy thing.

    Down here with the queerdos and minorities, I’m seeing people engage more fully with each other, be more willing to take on friends and lovers, in the last few months.

    Some are getting caught by chat bots, yes, but a lot of people are out there trying to grab human connection while we still can.

    I certainly feel like the “I’m the übermensch and revel in cruelty, empathy is a weakness” mentality that the straight basic wypipo have adopted will not only discourage other people from wanting to be their friend, but also discourages themselves from seeking friendship, because they see it as a weakness.