For anyone who’s thinking UK, I’d advise not - we’re about 4-5 years behind you in terms of imminent fascism and whilst there’s still technically a chance to avert it, its very unlikely - especially since Starmer is being even more awful than the Tories.

Re-reading Shirley Jackson’s “The Haunting of Hill House” because its the best haunted house novel ever written.

My head canon is that Mulder applied for Blue Rose membership but was too loosey-goosey for Gordon Cole to hire him. Cole would’ve hired Scully in a heartbeat.

7-zip is now cross platform. There used to be a linux implementation called p7-zip but its not necessary any more.

As everyone else has said: kidney issue. If its an infection (you should definitely get this checked out), you’re going to need antibiotics. Drink a lot of water - like, a lot - and introduce cranberry juice to your drinking habits (won’t fix the infection but there’s some evidence its preventative).

If its a stone then get ready for the worst pain in the world but also drink a lot of water to help break it up/aid its passage through.

TL;Dr - get a GP appointment and start drinking a fuck ton of water.

Hard to see how them choosing to charge money to access their server will affect the future of the project, even them choosing to not run a free for anyone server any more wouldn’t necessarily affect the future of the project because the project is not to provide a free for all server but to develop software. Either way, them trying to find a way to keep the server operating certainly doesn’t mean ‘Matrix is cooked’.

As far as Redis goes, as I understand it, they moved their software away from an open source license. There’s zero indication Matrix are going to do the same thing.

Hi, no, do what you want.

This seems a bit of an odd take. Matrix.org making their server freemium is up to them - charging some users to use the service (not the software) is a way of keeping the lights on. Better that than ads or selling user data. Lots of privacy focused orgs do the same - Proton, Tuta, Mailbox, Mullvad, IVPN. If people also have an issue with Element - don’t use Element, use one of the other apps.

If people are this upset, its not impossible (or even that hard) to migrate to a different server - or host your own.

The only rules that matter are the ones you and your date agree on and largely revolve around where it is you decide to meet. There’s nothing wrong with either of you having a drink if you’re somewhere that serves alcohol. There’s a lot wrong if either of you go on a bender. There’s also nothing wrong with drinking a soft drink too. Or doing an activity based date rather than a food/drink oriented one.

Just communicate openly with each other before the date with an eye towards your dates feelings/perception of safety.

For you personally to use that word to describe or allude to yourself and only yourself seems like something thats totally your call.

I do have to say though that encouraging someone else to use a word that is (or was once) a slur - especially if they are not gay themselves and therefore cannot possibly be reclaiming it - feels like a regressive and fairly crappy thing to do (assuming that they are straight).

Honestly, I am not trying to bait you or troll you or anything else when I say this but if you equate a simple request for context with toxicity you’re clearly not approaching this realistically or rationally.

You might well be right and you’ve been treated very poorly but literally no one on this thread apart from you can ever know that and no one is just going to take someone’s word for it.

But you expect everyone to immediately take you at your word without providing any context whatsoever.

Blast it.

“that option because just goes to desalines”

Who is the developer of the software. How they choose to develop Lemmy is up to them - you do have a choice though. Support them or don’t. What no one who donates has a choice over is how the developers choose to use the development funds they receive.

Not the point. The issue OP has is with the instance .ml - if they are donating to the developers then they’re contributing towards development costs which affect both .ml and every other instance. If that’s too much of a hurdle for them, maybe they could switch to donating to their instance admin.

If they had developed a centralised bit of software such as Twitter or Reddit you’d have a point. In that case you can’t support one without the other.

On a decentralised bit of software you can support the developers and spend your time on an instance they have no control over. So supporting the developers for development is not the same as supporting any particular instance - thats why a lot of instances accept donations too.

Probably not federated across yet. BTW - you’re better using the right structure for linking to communities in post:

!communityname@instancename.tld

I’m around your age and whilst I have friends who are around your blind dates age, I would never consider a romantic relationship with someone that age. Its not the number of years so much as the generational thing. I have kids older than that and that’s where it goes into weird territory.

Everyone’s different and you do you etc but I’d ask your daughter at the very least to inform the other half of this date how old her date is going to be.

Gonna be that guy and mention an alternative - Schildi Chat available for web, desktop and Android. Its based on the Element apps but with some extras. For example if you use the ‘Next’ variant of the Android app, Spaces work as intended.

You’re a bigot who is on a platform that doesn’t tolerate bigotry. Off you fuck.