Bingo. I think that’s the key to it - if you do it with the intent of getting something from someone, people will work that out pretty quickly and resent it. It comes over as being…greasy.
If it’s done from the perspective of having genuine interest, care and empathy it makes it easier to work as a group.
Yep. There’s people that want to keep distance at work and don’t appreciate it. Just have to respect that and leave them to it.
Not the most manipulative but
Keep a log of the birthdays, hobbies and names of spouses and children of colleagues, managers, team members and customers.
I learnt this from a guy who did executive search. People remember you, when you remember what is important to them.
When I’ve lead teams it’s one of the first things I find out - note down when someone says “yeah Gary that’s my hubby, he’s super into gaming”
When you’re a manager, your teams families, partners and friends know your name. Reciprocating that - learning who is important to them - is really important.
I honestly don’t know. Maybe a carry over from print journalism?
becoming an officer in the salvation army requires signing documentation. Likewise ministers need to be ordained.
So maybe expand the definition of regulation to include public institutions which have defined rules or codes of conducts. Leaving out the clanging irony of the multitude of crimes committed through organised religion.
Journalists is a weird one. I think back in the day it would have been that they trade on their public reputation. Less so now when I can start up a blog on college sports and call myself an investigative journalist.
Certification, regulation, proof of identity, of public note or public record…
Basically - you are known and can be found.
Oh one more. Contagion. Made years and years before covid - pretty spot on tho.
Simultaneously made me want to try, and to never ever try, drugs
Once were warriors
If you’re employed, there is a compulsory contribution of 10% of your pay which goes into superannuation (retirement savings)
You can also do voluntary contributions which you get a tax benefit on.
The compounded growth over time and the enforced nature of the savings means that every person who works contributes to their own retirement.
Some companies match voluntary contributions up to a threshold. And you get a tax benefit from it.
Because it’s compulsory, it isn’t really considered part of your remuneration. Companies will talk about total rem but most employees talk about base pay.
Only issue is massive superannuation providers with a huge amount of market clout. But you can be very prescriptive, or you can set up your own super fund.
Boring yes but easier to see, involved in proportionally fewer accidents, surface scratches are harder to see, remains cooler when parked outside, much easier to resell, always available, doesn’t attract attention, and the base white is normally cheaper…
I completely get it for a lease car. It’s a work vehicle, not a passion project.
Superannuation
Minimum 10% compulsory
If memory serves me correctly it’s named for the sound it makes
Kiiiiii wiiiiiiii
Reminds me of that 20th century philosopher, C.G.L. Wallace, who quipped “mo money, mo problems”
Panic attack (I hope)
It’s awful
??? So many holes in the way this data is presented
Different time scales on nearly all the charts
no definition for what is conservative vs what is liberal
Divergence has occurred within the past 10 yesrs
Date range is floating for 18 to 29 year olds
no data for equality
no data for relative power
no data for consequence
The data just…doesn’t support this premise, so probably not.
I was young and naive, even a couple years later I would’ve done a bit of digging. You know, questions like what’s his name, how long you guys been going out for, shouldn’t he be here with you in your moment of need given your fucking dog is dead.
Mate I’ve had some cracker first dates that didn’t work out in the long run but were absolutely part of the tapestry which got me to here.
The number of good first dates far outweighs the weird and shitty ones.
Some of my most treasured experiences are those quiet intimate moments just between two of you. An experience that just the two of you share. It is profound.
We are our experiences.
Per some of the comments above - add urgency, being in / not being in control, exertion are all part of it.
Finishing a half marathon
Attending a concert with 20k other people and singing one of my favourite songs at the top of my lungs
The 30 to 40 seconds after my first experience scuba diving
Surfing, believe it or not. - the feeling of being picked up and pushed forward at the same time, then being in control / out of control and elated at the same time
Dancing in darkness to uplifting music, sometimes even exercising in the dark
Riding downhill trails in the dark (wirh headlight of course)