well thanks. I’m trying to be less of the person I turned into towards the end of my stay on reddit. this place feels like a chance for social media to be okay again so I want to be better to it. thanks for being chill too and hearing me out 😊
Okay, thanks. That’s fair, I guess that’s why OP made this post and why we’re talking, right? Yeah. I definitely mean forced positivity that we’re not supposed to question. I’m onboard with trying to remove schadenfreude though. It makes sense that there are people who just get a kick out of ruining things for people. That results in negativity and also misinformation sometimes too.
I guess that’s what OP is proposing, but they’re asking everyone for criteria to judge a post by for removing it. If I’m being heard and they did decide to allow discussion in the comments about what is or isn’t right about the post, yeah it would make sense to have that discussion also try to stay positive. Assuming people coming to the comments know to do that. As for how to keep a good tone over the internet when pointing something out, I don’t think I know how to. I can’t advocate for that because I tend to have pretty bad tone most of the time. But it seems like a sensible thing to require, you know, constructive criticism?
You’re right about the comments in question though. I saw the comment ahead of me talk about prohibiting “politics and orphan crushing machines” and needed more context. Maybe I shouldn’t have assumed they meant people who use the phrase “orphan crushing machine” to point out that a post isn’t really positive. That would be silly. I think I was projecting my experience with Reddit onto this community.
Yeah, I didn’t think you were far off. I wish I could give some better insight to OP though instead of just “here’s how I use the comm plz don’t ban me”
Because I do actually enjoy having this on my main feed. I like positive content, I just really don’t like when negative content is repackaged to be hope-porn. Makes me feel more dismal than if I hadn’t seen it at all. Unfortunately I don’t usually have positive things to add verbally, and if you say that’s a Me problem then I say: Fair. I want to be better.
For adding context to a post, it helps to have the viewpoints of somebody who might be closer to a topic? I’d rather hear a sad correction from somebody who knows than be fed bullshit. Pretty sure most people would. And that’s not even the pessimist in me talking. I’m just pretty certain there’s enough legit good things in the world to report on that we shouldn’t have to lie.
All this to stress that I don’t think I’m the arbiter of truth or not. Rereading my comment I definitely was talking like I was. Which was stupid. But I would rather encounter this community under conditions where somebody can say “hey this is complicated or bad actually”. If it looks like that’s not on the table, I’m sure I will block it and you will have lost nothing. But keeping this sub in my feed is worth leaving my 2 cents and risking sounding like an asshole
do you mean posts that are an “orphan crushing machine” or comments that say the post is an “orphan crushing machine”?
these seem like serious discussions that should be had in either way. one person going “I know it when I see it” is going to be highly inaccurate and if commenters can’t talk it out nobody can give the info that would be needed to make a decision.
I’m not a regular or anything. Just don’t want lose my comment priveledges if I pop in and go “hey guys I know there’s a darker side to this particular good news”
you’re living it baybeee
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that’s good. they should vet any new mods on their own spaces pretty thoroughly though. the chuds on reddit played a very long game to get to the point where they can do that they do now
I don’t know how studied fediverse mods are on how the right infiltrated reddit moderation but I really hope you guys know. and that moderator actions are visible to eachother
they would befriend them ala Red Scare podcast out of spite
I take it this is not the one that runs on uranium and brinewater
So glad to hear that! Wishing him courage and gentleness as he grows 💪
A huge part of beginning work with a therapist is learning emotional vocabulary because many people are just made ignorant of what our emotions even are. That thing you feel when something bad happens to somebody you don’t like? There’s two or three different words for that but you can’t be expected to handle it healthily if you don’t even know what it is.
That’s an extreme example but there’s also a whole bunch of different kinds of sad that some cultures (looking at you America) just refuse to acknowledge because being sad isn’t being a hard worker and that’s bad for the economy ☹️
Anywho, emotional vocabulary. Important stuff. They make worksheets and tools to help you explore words. I highly recommend for everyone but especially for men because they keep us stupid on purpose.
yep, no NSFW without an account. which sadly, means a lot of things other that porn.
seems like they’re getting it up to reg for having kiddies on in the youtube kinds of numbers
it’s like they just started nuking all the old heads. by the time I left almost all +10 yr accounts were moderators or /[deleted]
after a period of inactivity they do delete your account to free up your username for use. your comments should still be at their addresses, the account will just read “deleted” or something
yeah and they’re built from crawling reddit and facebook
same, little guy. big same
Thank you for taking the time writing all this up for me. That makes me glad I asked because most info I was finding with google-foo was telling me to set up port forwarding the old way with my router and not really doing a good job of laying out how and why it works to begin with. After having switched from Tribbler to a client that has uPNP, now I think I understand why I’m struggling with it less. I’m unsure if my Soulseek is connected and sending data right but this gives me some better ideas of how to find out.
yeah they’re all up in that mod team. I reckon there’s at least one in every sub that needs multiple.