CBT is one treatment for depression - and you should stick with whatever’s helpful for you - but it’s not THE treatment. In the last couple decades there’s been a trend towards more flexible and integrative models like ACT and IFS. These models suggest that our efforts to avoid “bad” thoughts and feelings actually causes more suffering and keeps us stuck. Integrative models focus on allowing those things to exist, or even welcoming them in.

Do you have a source on your claim that data centers recycle water? Because these researchers state that 80% of the water is evaporated, and the other 20% is discharged to municipal wastewater facilities.

I wonder if it was inspired by Alvin Lucier’s “I am Sitting in a Room”

This happens in a smaller way with access to prenatal testing and abortions. Parents with access to those things are at least able to detect and avoid the more debilitating birth defect, while parents without access are more likely to have a child with a severe birth defect. If they’re already struggling materially, that can sometimes guarantee that both the parents and child will have no upward mobility.

Also not the person you replied to, but your comment is exactly the language they’re cautioning against. If I saw your comment attributed to a far-right nationalist, I wouldn’t be surprised.

Personally I think using dehumanizing language to describe fascists is letting them off the hook. I might want to believe we don’t share any DNA, but they’re humans who arrived at a certain worldview the same way I did. It’s just that their worldview is violent and disgusting.

AC adapters

The limited distribution makes people think it’s a mind-blowing beer. It’s pretty good.

Also from Minnesota here. For stereotypes, do you love the state fair? Are you friendly to strangers but don’t exchange contact info? Do you still have friends from elementary school?

I agree with another comment about separating Anglo authors from others. My favorite Anglo author is Cormac McCarthy. I feel self-conscious as he’s a white man who writes manly stories about white men, but his style is hypnotic to read. He uses obscure words that I’ve never heard before, but somehow I know what they mean because it flows so well.

What are you talking about?

He was involved in a hazing incident in college. IIRC he [allegedly] used a coat hook to drag someone across the room by his asshole.

Edit: aside from the hazing, Jon Hamm is my answer. He plays the same arrogant douche in everything he’s in, so I get the impression it’s not just a character. Similar to comedians whose whole schtick is being a dirtbag, then they turn out to be a dirtbag.

I hated him for this for a long time. He has since met with the victim, and the victim publicly said he forgave Wahlberg and wants him to have a second chance. To me, that’s restorative justice and I don’t think it’s my job to push for further consequences.

Jon Hamm on the other hand…

Ha, I was doing a similar calculation recently. I think the only subscription I ever paid for was Netflix, and for the others I used family and friends’ accounts. Only replacing Netflix, I haven’t broken even, but considering I pirate content from 5-6 different services, it’s absolutely cheaper.

The solution to social phobia isn’t to design your life around avoiding people. It’s fine if you prefer to spend time alone, but it’s important to be able to tolerate even the experiences you dislike the most. I might feel great suffering when I have to do math, but it’s important that I’m able to do some basic calculations when I have to.

It sounds like your aversion to being around people is causing some serious disruptions in important parts of your life, like eating meals. I promise that continuing to avoid people will not make the problem go away. I’m a big advocate for therapy. It might sound impossible to you since it involves talking to someone for extended periods of time, but therapists are there to listen without judgement, and to help you have an easier time in life.

I’ll go out on a limb and say that working out your sexual needs, communication, abilities, expectations, etc. is an uncomfortable process for everyone. No amount of preemptive mental work can substitute for the actual experience of having sex and figuring it out that way. It’s a bumpy road, but if you’re doing your best to be respectful and embrace the process, you WILL figure it out.

Therapist here. The concept of a “real depressed person” is brought to you by insurance companies (so they can deny coverage), the APA (so they can sell the DSM) and big pharma (so they can sell you drugs). The criteria are arbitrary and often discourage people from seeking help when they don’t think their suffering is “real enough.” Most therapists I know hate the diagnostic process, but we’re forced to do it so your insurance will pay for treatment.

Anyone who’s feeling depression that disrupts their lives is welcome to see a psychiatrist, or a therapist, or both. Both types of providers are here to help, and we’ll refer you to any additional providers if it’s appropriate.

Edit: for a deeper dive into the over-pathologizing of human experiences, I recommend Allen Frances’ Saving Normal and Ethan Watters’ Crazy Like Us. The latter has a chapter on GlaxoSmithKline’s crusade to change Japan’s cultural understanding of depression from a natural response to external events, to a pervasive disease that needs treatment (like Paxil!)

+1 for WTFJHT. Bless that man for sifting through unfiltered news to protect the rest of us from MSM brain rot.

But techbro 10 years ago was an undercut and a leather jacket. I’m hoping there’s a label for this iteration.

Looks like he and Zuck have the same stylist. Anyone know what this look is called, with the oversized tee and chain around his neck?

I know someone who just got hired at an unfinished Meta data center, ostensibly to do some low-level hardware monitoring and maintenance. His boss admitted that he accidentally hired people a couple months too early, so the first couple weeks have consisted of sitting around, eating free food and playing mobile games. Next week they’re being flown to an active data center out of state, but they won’t have much of their own work to do for another 4-6 weeks.

So these guys are being paid $25/hr, 40hrs a week, with a free lunch, and making no money for the company. I would expect any other company to find this unacceptable, but it’s just a drop in the bucket for Meta.