I’m in a gay relationship and finally came out to my family this year, they accepted me. I brought my boyfriend home for the first time for the winter holidays. He started drinking heavily with my dad this morning, and now he’s borderline blackout drunk and very touchy… horny, to say the least. It makes me uncomfortable since I’ve never seen him like this, lol. And of course, he’ll probably be hungover on my birthday tomorrow.
In the moment? Put him to bed. Tell him he’s too drunk and he’s causing problems, acting inappropriately and put him to bed. Tomorrow, explain what happened, if he’s not immediately remorseful hit him with the “Are you proud of your actions? Trying to touch my cock in front of my family?” be explicit. Explain that is unacceptable and if that’s how he’s going to act while drunk, he can’t drink that much around your family. Set these firm boundaries.
If he’s a decent man, he’s gonna feel really regretful. You can explain you still love him, you still wanna be with him, you understand people get drunk and make bad decisions and ask him if he wants help metering his drinking and try to work out some code phrases to remind him to pace himself while saving face. Revelling drunks hate to be told “Slow down” or “Haven’t you had enough?” Something like touching his shoulder and saying “Whew, these drinks are strong! I think I’m gonna get a buffer water, do you want one, honey?”
Also, get him a Gatorade before he goes to bed and one for when he wakes up, that should help the hangover in a big way. Any electrolytes will do. I like the Brode pills.
Edit: Might wanna reassure him he didn’t ruin Christmas, buuuuut he might have made a memorable story 😏. Also if it’s too early in the day to go to bed, impress upon him he needs a lil nap and can rejoin the party after.
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He might have felt pressure to keep up with your dad due to just meeting them / wanting to make a good impression, and not realized how drunk he was getting. Doesn’t excuse his actions in the least, but might help contextualize them… given it doesn’t sound like this is something he would normally do.
Oh honey it happens, it’s not a clear sign of any larger problem, sometimes people just get too drunk.
…if it becomes a pattern, that’s a different story. But he was probably a bit nervous meeting the family and overindulged. If he’s doing it out of boredom, make the boy cook!! Anyone can peel or chop vegetables. I got mine a lil apron and call him my sous chef (don’t tell him he’s the actually the garçon de cuisine)
I probably wouldn’t start the “metering your drinking” conversation unless it happens a second time, though.
Or even a third since you need 3 occurrences to establish a pattern.