hey,

so id like to meet someone, but i live in a rural area and don’t really get the chance to get out much. i was wondering if fellow lemmy folks have any places they know of online that are good to meet others?

  • TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world
    13·
    12 hours ago

    i mean you’re weirdo and your on disability… most people aren’t interested in dating any of that.

    also if you are male, you’re straight up fucked. if you were a woman it’s much more socially acceptable for you to be a dependent.

    most people look down on men that are not providers. literally your best chance of increasing your romantic and social opportunities is to make more money. if you don’t want to do that… well then yes you better learn to be happy alone.

    I make 150K a year and most women I date don’t think I make enough money to be considerable dateble. I’m also handsome, tall, and highly educated. Most women I meet are looking for a guy who makes 2-3x what I do, and living a far more lavish lifestyle than I desire.

    • toothpaste_sandwich@thebrainbin.org
      2·
      7 hours ago

      How can you go around calling someone you know nothing about a weirdo? Because they’re pansexual? Because they have some sort of disability?

      That is extremely callous and shortsighted. Please try to remember the human. By the sound of it, the money is not the reason women don’t consider you particularly dateable. Look up empathy and see if you can improve yours.

      • katkit@lemmy.world
        1·
        7 hours ago

        I’m a weirdo who’s on disability and have had great experiences with dating apps. I found half of my peer group there and some short-term relationships. I’m a bi woman, so your mileage may vary obviously, but in my experience the queer dating scene is a bit easier in that regard, even though I can’t comment on male dating.

        I was very lonely and isolated for a long time and pretty much thought I’m just gonna be alone. In general I try to be open about my baggage and other people with perhaps similar backgrounds appreciate that. Once I found them life got really pleasant.

        I’ve used pretty much all the apps with varying success. I had a better experience with the not so famous apps like Boo, Hiki (for neurodivergent people) or HER (lesbian app). I think I am an outlier here though, because most people I know get jaded from online dating really quickly, I’ve been doing it on and off for 5 years now. Sometimes I don’t really get many matches, half a year later it’s better. So if online dating isn’t for you that’s fair, but if it is, maybe you can find an app with like-minded people as well.