I understand a fantasy and a one time thing like tipping on a guys night out at a strip club, but some of these guys think they are in a relationship with someone they will never meet and don’t even know their real name or life details.
It’s always been this way and yes they do.
In the 50’s, women artists were literally expected to hide their partners. Dolly Parton famously got married against the wishes of her managers/producers, because she was a bad bitch who wasn’t going to be pushed around and denied her own life. She was a rarity at the time.
The number of OF models who have boyfriends who never appear on cam is high. This isn’t new for women in porn, this has pretty much how it has always operated. Men don’t like their fantasy being destroyed by pesky details like a boyfriend.
In Kpop its definitely still a thing, and it seems like the young male fans flip the fuck out when they find out one of the women they’re idolizing already has a boyfriend.
It’s capitalism, baby. It teaches young men that human relationships are a financial transaction and nothing more. They absolutely do think the money they spend means something, even if they aren’t an outright Incel.
Many of them will end up furious eventually, once it becomes clear they will never make it anywhere with this woman.
*shrugs
It’s capitalism, baby. It teaches young men that human relationships are a
financialtransaction and nothing more.I really notice that idea in movies from the 80s and 90s. The love interest leaps into the dude’s arms at the end. They didn’t know each other an hour ago, but she’s the reward for the hero’s success.
That’s where I learned from, and I learned the hard way that the crazy antics in those movies just get you a restraining order!
There is nothing positive that comes from the existence of simps.
People be lonely, yo.
I’ve thought about it. It’s tempting because it’s simple. When you spend time and energy on your wife and she doesn’t give anything back, it’s very lonely. A cam girl is simple. Money goes in, attention comes out. It’s not exactly what I want but it’s got a higher success rate that what I’ve got now.
Divorce is an option.
Can’t afford it. I can’t afford the aftermath, keep my kids, and keep my sanity. I’ve thought about it.
Fair enough. Wish you the best of luck. You seem to have a good heart. You deserve better.
Thanks. :)
Thank god I dont have kids, and my wife isnt a bloodsucker. We tentatively agreed in principle to a divorce yesterday, and one of the first things she said was “Do we need lawyers or can we just sign the divorce application and be done with it?”
I hope that its over soon, quickly and cheaply. We are both so tired.
I knew a couple who did that. They had a mutual friend lawyer represent them both, lol. It was smooth to say the least.
Sorry to hear that, hope you can find a way out of that situation.
Thanks, I’ve become resigned to it.
I wish you strength, and hope you’ll find a good solution. Maybe it would be worth a thought of spending the money for couples therapy.
I’ve been asking for years. I can schedule an appointment, but they have to show up.
Go on your own. You likely know this, but saying it just in case.
I have. I’ve gotten what I can. It’s gotten me stable and surviving.
Hey can we spend some time together?
Get death glare
Fine, go back to your 9 hour streaming marathon. Sorry to bother you.
Quite a lot of the people that donate money to camgirls/OnlyFans models have learning difficulties. My special needs brother-in-law gets disability allowance from the state every month because he is too disabled to work and still managed to rack up a 4000 pound debt giving money to these “content creators”.
I think the concept you meant here is being neurodivergent. Learning disabilities are a related concept, but for example I doubt someone being dyslexic would make them any more likely to have a problem with this sort of thing. You’re talking about people with things like Autism, ADHD, etc. right?
I’ve heard “learning difficulties” used by Brits the way “intellectual disabilities” is used in the US, Down Syndrome for example. It’s not equivalent to “Learning disabilities” in the US, like ADHD or dyslexia.
Your BIL likely has an intellectual impairment to get those benefits. Learning disabilities are not typically severe enough to disable a person from working. An intellectual impairment is a much broader term that essentially indicates the person’s IQ is significantly lower than average, and this very often is disabling enough to prevent a person from working.
I’ve seen folks do the same with people who stream games.
An acknowledgement of your own existence is a powerful thing. I get it.
I’m sure many have that fantasy. I’d guess that others understand that it’s just a tease, and have enough disposable income that they don’t care. Same as strip clubs.
Parasocial relationships are fucked and there’s lots of chuds out there hyperfocusing on all the wrong things.
I don’t think a blanket statement about parasocial relationships is warranted at all based on some outliers.
Being in a parasocial relationship is fine as long as both people are aware of this and feel comfortable with the position they’re in. It’s only when this isn’t the case it becomes a problem, this isn’t inherent to parasocial relationships and applies to a lot of relationships.
I have a parasocial relationship with a certain Twitch streamer. I have no delusions about what that relationship is or isn’t. I pay/donate because I value what this person adds to my life in the form of content and a community. The streamer is only vaguely aware of my existence and that’s fine. I do not want to be a part of his life except as a community member in general and all he brings to my life is the entertainment and a cool place to hang out. I see this as a win-win scenario.
Of course there are always whales who pay big bucks, but I feel most of them are like me, they just pay what they feel the value is. If I have a shitty week and the provided entertainment cheers me up, I might donate $10. If a rich whale has a shitty week and they get cheered up they might donate a 100 bucks. But there is no notice me senpai aspect or expectation this changes anything in the relationship.
They might think that, and they might be right. There have been multiple accounts from sec workers who feel friendly to their clients.
Think about any place you go regularly: you might have a friendly relationship with the cashier/waiter/barista/bartender/whoever. That relationship only exists because you are a customer, but that doesn’t mean they don’t feel genuinely friendly to you. When I’ve worked in service jobs, there were plenty of people I only interacted with because I had to, and there were a handful of people I genuinely liked seeing. Just because someone is selling images of their naked body and a sense of intimacy doesn’t mean the dynamic is fundamentally different on their side. For the clients, there is often a misunderstanding of what the boundaries are, which is why many sex workers are extremely direct with people.
I don’t think the type of person that gives cam girls tons of money is self-aware enough to realize the model doesn’t care if they are still breathing 10 minutes after the money hits their account.
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God damn. Florida must have so much lead in the air and water.
A lot of it is buying the illusion/experience. They are helping that girl get back into veterinary school or are virtually rubbing her clit by making panties vibrate or whatever.
Also, it is generally not the same whale every night. Sometimes it is, but most models have a set of regulars.
And the other aspect to remember is the good old audience plant. Think of it like starting a hype train on twitch or getting the meter most of the way to the exposed titties goal or whatever. The idea is a friend or site employee uses cheap tokens to encourage others to use real ones.
They are lonely and desperate for any kind of interaction with another human. Because sex work is illegal and dangerous, it creates a market for this kind of stuff. It’s sad. People need attention, touch, and love from other humans as much as they need food and water. But many people are unattractive and/or socially inept… but do have some money. And society is largely cruel and heartless towards outsiders. It’s hard for most to accept, but many factors outside of a person’s control can force them into a lonely life of rejection and non-acceptance by average folks. People find all kinds of things to fill these voids. Paying cam models is just one of many coping mechanisms, and maybe not as self-destructive as drugs, booze, food, etc.
I agree with every single thing you said. But, I paid for a woman’s OnlyFans account for a couple of months.
She was wildly attractive to me, but the thing I admired the most was how artful she was in her nudes. The outfits and makeup and all that, simply artful.
She put real work into all that, and I so loved the effort. And besides, yikes, talk about my type.
$5/mo. for a couple of months, no big deal, and I was happy to help her out. But I had zero illusions, zero attachment, and I told her everything I’ve said here. She was very nice, chatted briefly a time or two, and didn’t try to suck me into some kinda pseudo relationship.
Not a shill, but if you like 'em flat as a board:
https://twitter.com/Princes_rosea
Go from there.
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I used to go to strip clubs occasionally, I never had the delusion that any of the girls were into me, but for me that was kind of part of the fun.
It removes all of the pressure, you don’t have to worry about fucking up your chances with any of them because you never had any chances to begin with, and as long as you’re not a total creep and can keep the singles coming, you’re going to have a steady stream of pretty girls coming around and acting flirty with you, laughing at your jokes, generally paying attention to you, etc. and that can feel pretty nice.
Some people can get weird about it and have an unhealthy mental idea about what their relationship with the strippers actually is, but that’s not limited to strippers either, pretty sure that just about anyone who’s worked in a bar or restaurant for any length of time has probably had that one regular customer who was a little too buddy-buddy with you and seemed to think that you were their best friend even though you kind of hate their guts and are just nice to them because that’s your fucking job.
That doesn’t mean you can’t have the occasional genuine interactions with them, it’s kind of hard not to, at the end of the day we’re social creatures who want to connect with one another, but that doesn’t necessarily change the fundamental nature of your customer/service-provider relationship.
I assume it’s a form of the buzzword/phrase “parasocial relationship” and some if not most do actually think they have a chance. No real idea, but you can definitely see it even on twitch with female viewers and their rich viewers throwing money at them
I once signed up to an only fans I fancied just to see what the hubbub was all about. I paid my monthly fee which was like 10 or 11 bucks. I had access to her whole catalog including live shows. I managed to catch one of those live shows and by the end of it, only about 30 minutes long, she managed to get 800 bucks in tips.
People were tipping her 200 300 hundreds bucks at a time as she diddled her self with various implements.
Insanity. There is literally limitless free porn in this genre out there. There is absolutely no reason to pay for any of this.
And yet… There you have it. This woman made close to 1000 dollars for doing something she’d probably do anyway.
