• Araithya@lemmy.world
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    14 days ago

    “If you love something set it free, if it comes back it’s meant to be.” Nearly cost me the best relationship of my life because I was a dumb, impressionable kid that believed in wise sounding words. If you love something, hold on to it. Work for it. Don’t let it go just to “see if it comes back”.

    Same could probably be said for just about any seemingly wise sounding sayings.

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      13 days ago

      I think it’s more about control than sending what you love away.

      “Set it free” means let your love interest choose to stay or leave on their own, don’t try to keep them caged.

      Depending on what you mean, it’s possible that your love you regret letting go of wouldn’t have lasted even if you had held it and fought.

      Though if you mean you took that saying and thought it meant you needed to push your love away to see if they returned, then yeah, that’s not a great strategy.

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        13 days ago

        Yeah, the latter is how it was explained to me. Like, literally break up with the person you love to see if they’ll fight for you to take them back. Or push them away and wait a few years to see if they magically reenter your life or something. Crazy, I think some people believe they live in a hallmark movie

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          13 days ago

          Ah fuck, that’s a rough lesson to learn the hard way. Like so obvious in hindsight, but if you needed to learn it, you needed to learn it before you could see that.

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          13 days ago

          I installed a gravitic emitter in my belt that makes it feel like she has to walk uphill to approach me. Let’s see just how much she loves me, and if it’s statistically significant in its difference between how much she loves approaching the cat.

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        13 days ago

        Could have also meant just not working to maintain it. “Let it go” could (foolishly IMO) mean “stop feeding it”.