As a guy, I never really felt comfortable saying those things to anyone irl.

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    Yes, initially I found Los Angeles much nicer but after time felt it was much more fake. You can’t really speak your mind here.

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      Wait, you think the midwest is nice for real? That was not my experience at all. I got a lot of nice polite words to your face with a lot of being nasty when your back was turned. Not everyone was that way of course, but it was the very large majority

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        Yeah I’m experiencing the complete opposite here. I remember being able to discuss actual topics and not talking shit every time someone turns their back in the Midwest. I don’t remember the last time I felt I could actually be myself here (California).

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        As someone who has lived in the Midwest, the biggest distinction is if I’m in a city, a suburb, or rural town. People in cities can’t emotionally afford to be genuine to everybody they meet. Rural folk are suspicious of outsiders, but will help you hide a body if you’re in the group. Suburbians can be a happy medium, at least in my experience.