For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.
On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.
From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.
Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!
That’s me you’re talking about. And yes. I agree 100%.
Letting them do an elective surgery on my healthy child was a parenting failure I deeply regret.
The other reality of being a parent is that regret comes with the job.
You try to do the best you can do, and you deal with your mistakes as best you can. None of us is perfect.
I was talking to a work colleague about how I was agonizing over mistakes I made. He said if I’m concerned about my mistakes, then I’m doing ok. He said his parents never thought they made any mistakes or they didn’t care if they did. His attitude was if you’re trying, you’re a good parent.
Of course, I didn’t stop agonizing over my mistakes. After all, what does he know? He had shitty parents!
That’s helpful to hear. Thank you for sharing it.
Haha. Yes.