• becoming (financially) independant of abusive narc parent
  • own job and benefits/pension
  • own bills and own (no goddamn roomates) place to live
  • own pets they have zero fucking say in whether i can keep for the rest of our lives regardless of if they wanna move one of their loser kids they pretend have allergies into muh space which they cant do lol
  • JayleneSlide@lemmy.world
    14·
    16 hours ago
    • Moving out at 16 to escape my abusive home life (after the second time I was hospitalized for injuries from being beaten)
    • Getting out of homelessness twice and putting together a career
    • Finally finding the correct set of tools in combination with the right therapists to un-fuck my maladaptive behaviors—bad templates that resulted in me repeatedly choosing bad partners as well as sabotaging relationships with a handful of truly beautiful people
    • stinky@redlemmy.comEnglish
      1·
      14 hours ago

      I need therapy but I’ve never had a good one. Can you sell me on it? How long before you saw results? How many did you try

      • BilboBargains@lemmy.world
        2·
        11 hours ago

        Learn about the main psychological disorders. There are many resources online that describe the DSM in plain language. Figure out if you identify with some of the symptoms of a particular disorder. Seek out a therapist who deals with the particular disorder.

        Well, that was my method. Doctors and therapists can help us but ultimately we have to heal ourselves.